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   Welcome to the particular mental hell that many women inhabit.  In an insightful article on Tom’s Dispatch by Mattea Kramer we see how the negativity toward women in society internalizes itself and become women’s own inner self-critical voice.

 

“Girls observe and absorb such double standards, as well as the criticism they receive for speaking up. Then they police themselves. As adults in professional settings, women talk a lot less than men when they’re outnumbered by the opposite sex — 75% less, according to a team of researchers from Princeton and Brigham Young universities. And if they do dare say something, they tend to hear an inner voice telling them that they sound dumb.

“God, I just said such a stupid thing,” a campaign director at a national advocacy organization thought to herself. “You don’t want to come off as an angry black woman, do you?” said the inner critic to an executive recruiter. To a nationally recognized artist: “You sound like a dumb girl.” To a Ph.D. with a successful career in higher education, “I shouldn’t have talked so much.” And to a thirty-something paralegal: “Your boss thinks you’re an idiot, and it’s because you are one.” You can imagine how much she speaks up.

In an attempt to outrun such criticism and those voices echoing in their heads, many women wear themselves out striving for perfection. As one researcher summarized the situation, ambitious women “exist by putting out maximum energy at all times, trying to do everything and do it well. It is not enough that they attempt to be outstanding in their work; their perfection complex also causes them to strive for a Jane Fonda body, a house that could be on the cover of Better Homes and Gardens, and perfect children.” They think they’re only okay if they’re flawless — and in the end often come to believe that they’re unlovable. (Depression, as it happens, is more common among women.)

“If other people really knew you, they wouldn’t love you,” said the inner critic to a newly married woman. “You should just accept that you’re going to be alone for the rest of your life,” it said to an Asian-American woman in her thirties. To a writer and teacher who volunteers her time helping the mentally distressed, the critic, speaking of her friends, said, “Why would they love you?”

Living in patriarchy is grand eh? ” :(

 

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Posts like these are periodic reminder to my male readership that the way society treats you, and the way you expect to be treated isn’t the gold standard.  If you happen to be a double XX’er then, mysteriously (not so mysteriously if you happen to be a radical feminist) the rules and expectations that apply to you are quite different.

Female readers will know exactly where this article is going from the headline alone.   Dudes, strap in, fire up your extra brain packs, and read for comprehension.

Do you/can you see the high octane male-bullshit going on the above passage?  Let’s start off with this:

 

“My (now ex) husband would take serious offense [when his overtures for sexy times where rejected] even though I told him constantly it wasn’t him”

Women are people they are complete, distinct, autonomous human beings.  Women do not owe anything to anyone, ever.

    “I started waking up at night to him touching me, trying to have sex with me in my sleep.  I told him the first time it happened that it was NOT something I’m ok with, and he needed to stop.  He didn’t.”

The first thing, my dudes, you should be thinking about is how rapey as fuck the husband’s behaviour is.  Sleeping people cannot consent to being touched.  If you respect someone’s basic human rights, you don’t touch them without permission.  Not stopping when asked to stop is already fully in the territory of rape.

” After talking to my friends about it, seeking help or advice, I felt like I had no choice but to allow it to happen. They all told me that he probably had a hard day at work and he wants some love, or they even judged me for not having sex with my own husband. I felt stuck.”

The second thing, my dudes, is right in front of you, you exist in it, breathe it, swim in it.

Patriarchy.

What just happened here?  A woman was sexual assaulted by her husband, as he disregarded her humanity and continued to do what he wanted.  After, being assaulted, the woman goes to her friends for support and gets shut down (read her basic humanity denied {as in, I get to define who touches me or not}) and told that something is wrong with her and she should really consider his feelings on the matter.

If you are about to say, but they are married, back the fuck up.  Answer this first and tell me what part of being married abrogates a woman’s basic human rights?  You can do what you’d like with property, but if you happen to be putting your wife in the realm of ‘your property’ your basic assumptions about women are seriously flawed – because people are not (should not be)property, ever.

    “I woke up to him touching me and I told him I’d press charges if he did it again and he stalked off, saying “wow. I can’t even touch my own wife.”

This is not uncommon.  Just think about the level of male entitlement – when one human being thinks they should have unfettered access to another human being’s body.  This isn’t 1850, this isn’t the 1950’s, this story is dated 09/21/2017. 

Fix your shit dudes.  It’s been too long already.

 

 

 

 

 

Finally, a little mainstream coverage of female concerns with the male-centric trans narrative.

Get the story reported here.

 

I’m quite done with the notion that feminism and transactivism can ever be reconciled.  They are mutually exclusive concepts.

Feminism is about the liberation of females from patriarchy, and as evinced as of the September 13th – transactivism is about maintaining a respectable queer patina over the ugly face of male violence and domination.   Stand where you may, but after the 13th, know who you stand with.

That is all.

 

 

This story courtesy of Meghan Murphy writing on The Feminist Current.

This story highlights exactly the narrative of what the business end of transactivism is – male violence against women.  There is nothing ‘progressive’, ‘inclusive’, or any other lefty bullshit word appropriated by the transactivists that apply here.

This is a story of violent men being violent toward women, stalking, harassing, and beating women (and if you haven’t fucking guessed by now when I say woman I mean adult human female) for having the temerity to want to have a discussion about Gender.

“To Allen’s surprise, her Momentum group declined to host her proposed meeting, wherein she suggested people “get off the internet,” speak face to face, and debate the issues. She decided to move forward anyway, inviting an equal number of people from both sides of the gender identity debate to participate. She and her co-organizers arranged for the event, called “What is Gender,” to take place at the New Cross Learning, a community library in London, on September 13th. “

Oh hey look, this is how people that are not part of cult that promotes delusional thinking, approach a contentious issue.  They set up debates, invite speakers from both sides to promote a dialogue, to promote argument, to look toward a finding a shared ground and commonality.

This whole civilized debate thing goes straight out the window once males perceive a threat to their gender narrative though.

“It wasn’t until Sisters Uncut, a British direct action group advocating for domestic violence services, caught wind of the event, that things became chaotic.

 

“[People] started harassing the library,” Allen told me. “I went in [to New Cross Learning] and heard phone call after phone call, email after email, tweet after tweet.” New Cross Learning was inundated with demands they cancel the talk. Fearing for the space and safety of those in it, the library cancelled the event on September 12th.”

Yep, because debating women seems to be quite outside the wheelhouse of transactivists – much easier to threaten them and deplatform them.  The usual tactics and behaviour of threatened violent males.

“Between 20-30 protestors who had gotten wind that women were meeting at Speaker’s Corner before heading on to the talk showed up to harass attendees and follow them to the venue. Some yelled “Kill all TERFs” and held signs reading “No Debate,” according to witnesses. A group called “Action for Trans Health London” had posted the location of the meeting, despite knowing some protestors were threatening violence. Miranda Yardley, one of the scheduled speakers, told me that one man who commented, “Anyone idea where/if this is happening. I wanna fuck some terfs up, they are no better than fash,” on the Action for Trans Health London Facebook page, did in fact show up at Speaker’s Corner and tried to steal Yardley’s phone.”

Yep.  Kill all TERFS – No Debate.  Defenders of the transpoltics this is what you and other self-identified “progressives” are defending.  Your bullshit is terrible for feminism and women and should in no light be viewed progressive.  Unless of course your lexicon of inclusive progressive feminism includes punching women in the face, and putting the boots to her once she’s on the ground.

“The man, who calls himself “Tara Flik Wood,” didn’t only attempt to steal a phone. He was also allegedly involved in a violent attack on Maria MacLachlan, a 60-year-old humanist funeral celebrant for Humanists UK.

When I spoke with her over email, MacLachlan told me she had been trying to film the protest when some of the trans activists began to shout, “When TERFs attack, we fight back.” She asked them, “Who’s attacking?” At this point, MacLachlan says a young man in a hoodie tried to grab her camera. “I think he knocked it out of my hand but it was looped to my wrist. He turned back and tried to grab it again. I hung onto it.” As the two struggled, MacLachlan pulled back the hood of the man holding her camera, so onlookers could photograph his face, and another man — identified by numerous witnesses as Wood — ran over and began punching MacLachlan. Wood and a third man pushed her to the ground, where she says she was kicked and punched. The police were called, but have not yet followed up on the assault.”

 

Reprehensible.

 

“MacLachlan says she is “utterly bewildered at the behaviour of these young people.”

“They behaved like a brainwashed cult and seriously seemed to think that we are the haters, the bigots, the misogynists, the violent ones. But all we wanted to do was have a peaceful meeting and discussion and all they wanted to do was try to bully and intimidate us. They behaved like fascists and the irony seems to be totally lost on them. I’m sad because I’ve been a feminist for 45 years, I’ve always been left wing and I feel my generation of women and those that fought before us have been betrayed by this generation.”

Yeah.  There is no room in feminism for men – transactivists through their violence keep proving this statement.

“The women went on to the event venue in small groups, taking different routes in order to lose the protestors who were attempting to follow them. A number of attendees said they felt “stalked” as trans activists assigned to pursue particular individuals followed them very closely. Yardley told me, “We were being intimidated, in plain daylight, by a group of people who outnumbered us by about three to one.”

Julia Long, a feminist activist and lecturer, and Yardley, who identifies as a transsexual and is critical of gender identity ideology, presented to an audience of approximately 50 people, while protestors yelled outside. The talk was cut short as police arrived at the venue and shut down the event.

In a statement following the talk, Action for Trans Health London did not apologize and stated they were “proud” of the protestors’ actions.”

 

“Since the events circulated online, numerous trans activists have not only condoned the assault, but celebrated and encouraged it. One young woman who attended the protest said, “I’m happy for them to hit her.”

 

I heard a TERF got punched so it’s my duty as commander of Armchair Violence Enthusiast Twitter to say: good job, nice work, keep it up

— sexuall cruz (@AliceAvizandum) September 14, 2017

Imagine if twenty people had punched terfs.

Imagine if every terf had left bruised and bloodied.

Every one would stop organising.

— ada (@drcab1e) September 13, 2017

Especially trans people. Like, get on the TERF-punching train or get out of the way, a whole lot of us are ready to ride.

— Ms. Transistor 💘 (@SuddenlyLucy) September 14, 2017

I’d rather throw a punch and be accused of male violence than not and be the victim of transphobic violence. That’s it. The end.

— ME • RI • SA (@cambrian_era) September 14, 2017

 

“While silencing, no-platforming, and threats against feminists are not new, this violence takes recent efforts to shut down women’s speech to another level. Many of those defending the violence have predictably compared feminists to Nazis, an accusation that has been embraced by anti-feminists and men’s rights activists for decades. Indeed, it was right wing radio host Rush Limbaugh who popularized the term “feminazi” in the 90s — a man who, like these young activists, believes gender is innate and unchangeable, and feels feminists present a danger by challenging that idea.

That trans activists have adopted this comparison to Nazis with particular enthusiasm of late is intentional, contextualized within antifa defenses of violence against white nationalists. By painting feminist speech as dangerous and bigoted, trans activists have set up a political defense of male violence against women. If violence against Nazis is justified, and feminists are Nazis, violence against feminists is not only acceptable, but politically righteous. Ironically, it is the protestors themselves who have adopted practices endorsed by fascists, including censorship; misogyny; the forcible suppression of opposition and criticism; an opposition to democracy; and the use of violence or threats to build their movement, gain power, and impose their views on others.

Considering the context and history of Hyde park for women’s rights activists and social justice movements, more broadly, the violence and harassment that occurred on Wednesday is ever more emblematic. A century after women fought for their right to participate in public life, they are being silenced once again — smeared and harassed for speaking and meeting in public. Indeed, the behaviour is wholly contrary to the spirit of Speaker’s Corner, and an affront to women’s rights.”

Thank you Meghan Murphy for writing this piece, may it serve as a clarion call to for people to see the misogyny that is transactivism and see the abject male violence against women on display.  Transactivsm is not enlightened, it is not ‘progressive’, and sure as fuck it isn’t feminist.

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