This quote starkly lays out exactly what is at stake when it comes to the politics of gender and those who follow its dictates.

So no, feminism is not about being mean to the poor menz, it is fighting against the oppressive shit that hurts women.  Focusing on how the conception of gender is problematic for everyone involved isn’t ‘phobic’ –  it is an attempt to recognize, deconstruct, and tear down a bastion of sexism in our society that has been polluting our civilizations for hundreds of years.